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8/17/18 - It's not about the money

There’s a saying that when someone says “It’s not about the money”, then you know it’s about the money. Unfortunately, money is often a gage that people use to assess other people. There are those who will try to surround themselves with people who have lots of money. Others will say that rich people are greedy and evil.

Money is part of everyone’s life. Having lots or a little doesn’t determine a person’s character. Like the other elements of an individual’s life, the role and priority of money says more about the person than how much they have.

We human beings are all a work in progress. So coming to a comfortable place in your life with money may be a lifelong journey. As you make this your journey, ask yourself, if you were suddenly gone from this earth tomorrow and someone had only your financial records to get to know you, what would they learn about you? Would they see a story of debt, expensive vacations, a huge home, designer clothes, and impressing others?  Would your finances tell of massive amounts of money hoarded and never shared? Or would your records tell of responsibility, caring about loved ones, giving to charitable causes, and a life well lived?

You might be frustrated with your lack of financial alternatives. That can range from being unhappy with investment returns to feeling that you never have enough money to do what you want. But we all have some choices available and can do our best to take control. Make conscious decisions about the role money plays in your life. How you use money reflects your values, your discipline, and whether you plan for the future.

Many people monitor spending or set up a budget. You can assess whether your spending and saving is accomplishing what you want it to. For instance, are you spending on things that aren’t necessary or important to you? A financial counselor shared that she’s developed an education exercise that she calls the $800 snacks. The initial reaction of people is that $800 for snacks is ridiculous! But spending about $3 a day on snacks five days a week for a year adds up to around $800. It may be worth it to you to have the convenience and selection of getting something from the snack machine during a break. Or you may say that you’d rather buy snacks in bulk and bring them with you. Another example is giving to charity. Do you respond when you get a request, or do you pro-actively decide what causes you want to support and budget to give them money every year? For many of us, money can give us experiences we value. Personally, I don’t mind spending money on a vacation with my kids. To me that’s priceless. Decide what your money can do and say about you.

-Linda Leitz

8/9/18 - Money and Dating

8/2/18 - Money and Dating - #2

Use discretion in your money matters. Be true to who you are – financially and otherwise – but don’t share financial specifics with people unnecessarily. In a new relationship, you don’t need to reveal your finances until things start to get serious. So what does that look like from a monetary perspective?

People who are in a dating relationship often want to do special things together and impress each other. But it’s not a good idea to have your couples activities break a reasonable budget for you. That’s part of being honest with the person you’re dating. It’s a problem to start a relationship being someone you’re not financially. If your income supports a fast food budget, don’t lead a significant other to believe that fine dining is a regular expectation. And it’s certainly acceptable to say that a particular activity is too pricy or to suggest a less expensive activity.

A trip together, which is often a step in getting more serious, can be telling in terms of how you each prioritize financially. What type of lodging, meals while you’re traveling, and activities do you each want? How do you divide expenses? Equally? Maybe one of you pays for the hotel and the other buys meals. It’s a good indication of how you each handle finances.

When a relationship turns serious, think about sharing financial details. I you’re going to get married or move in together, you definitely need to know if your significant other can responsibly manage joint finances. If you both work and will share expenses, you need to know each other’s income. If you  make substantially different incomes, you need to decide how to share joint expenses. Will you split housing costs proportionate to income or equally? For instance, if you make $5,000 a month and your significant other makes $2,500 a month, you could split big expenses with you paying two-thirds and your partner one-third, you could divide the expenses equally, or some other method. Perhaps you pay housing and your significant other pays utilities and buys groceries.

While it might seem unromantic, documenting financial obligations before you move in or get married is wise. If you can’t talk about difficult financial issues when the relationship is growing, it’ll be more difficult if you aren’t getting along later. If you decide to sign a financial agreement, be prepared to share information in the form of official documents – account statements, tax returns, pay statements. You should each have advice from an attorney and sign your agreement in front of a notary.

Relationships aren’t about money – or they shouldn’t be. You don’t want to buy affection. If you impress a love interest with expensive dates and gifts, you won’t know if the attraction is to you or to the money. And if you get into a relationship for money, you might just end up earning every penny.

-Linda Leitz

7/26/18 - Vacations and Money

7/19/18 - Financial tips for your vacation

Unless you’re doing a last minute trip, you’ve probably already booked flights and hotels for a summer vacation. But even if you’ve already paid that money, there are still some opportunities to save money on an upcoming trip.

One is meal planning. If your household is like mine, even a very eventful vacation almost seems to flow from one meal to the next. But eating without a plan can add up. Find out what restaurants you’d like to go to, see if there’s a better or worse time to eat there from a price perspective, and plan some of your events around that meal. I’m not suggesting that you catch the Early Bird Special instead of enjoying a luxurious dinner. But a mid-week dinner might be just as enjoyable as going at peak times. And a leisurely lunch might be just as nice as a dinner and less expensive. Also, set a budget for a meal. Perhaps you can share an appetizer and dessert instead of each getting both.

While thinking of food, snacks and drinks can be another expensive outlay if you don’t plan. Take some snacks for the plane or car, including some non-perishable snacks for the trip home. Airline food and side of the road eateries can be much more expensive than snacks you buy at the grocery store. You can also plan to eat a bit healthier if you bring these goodies with you.

Buy some of your tour and event tickets ahead of the trip. This can save money – perhaps going at less popular times – and also help make sure you get to see what you want to. Spur of the moment decisions on what to do sometimes mean having to stand in a long line or missing a sold out event, so besides saving money, you might save your vacation.

Give the kids a trip budget. Instead of dealing with multiple cases of whining, tell them up front where you’ll be going, what you’ll be seeing, what some of the things are they can purchase (or won’t be allowed to purchase), and how much they will be allocated. Older kids can do some online research on what they might be able to buy. You can have some teachable moments with younger kids. If you hold on to the trip budget until they are ready to spend it, you can have a fun discussion about the purchase. That’s better than arguing that you won’t buy them something else.

If you’re looking for a last minute getaway close, you might be able to find some good bargains. Hotels that have empty rooms may have lower rates for last minute stays. There are even some reduced airline fares if you can go on a moment’s notice.

You can plan enough to save a little, but let go enough to have some fun.

-Linda Leitz

7/12/18 - Money Smart Kids - #3

7/6/18 - Money and Dating - #1

If you’re dating with the hope of being in a committed relationship, it’s a good idea to be aware of signals about how your companion handles financial matters. In a long term relationship, your individual finances will impact both of you, even if you keep your finances separate.

In the early stages of dating, you’re enjoying getting to know each other and doing special things on dates – even trying to impress each other. So you’re probably spending money on entertainment and trips that aren’t necessarily affordable long term. When the two of you start talking about a future together, it’s time to pay attention to finances, too. Many people are uncomfortable talking about money, but you don’t need to start with a big, serious discussion. Maybe it begins with giving some ideas of cost efficient activities – making dinner together instead of eating out, watching a movie at home instead of going to a theater, a day trip instead of going away for a weekend.

At some point in a good relationship, you’ll be able to have some discussions about money. If you plan to be together long term, you’ll want to be able to both stay financially sound and plan activities together that take that into consideration. You both need to have an emergency fund, save for retirement, and avoid consumer debt. You don’t necessarily need to disclose to each other what you make, but you can benefit from a discussion about what you can each afford to spend. This may be a moving target so keep the lines of communication open.

Many relationships work well even if both people don’t have the same financial situation. But you do each need to do what you can afford. Don’t try to match what your significant other spends if you can’t afford it. You can both benefit from agreeing on how to structure things.

Some people feel like it keeps things simple to just live together rather than get married. Marriage does formalize things, but that can have positive aspects. If you move in together without getting married, consider having a co-habitation agreement. Even if you don’t intend to own a home together or have joint accounts and want to take a “what’s mine is mine – what’s yours is yours” approach, a simple agreement document your intentions can simplify things if you break up. Ideally, you each have an attorney help draw it up or look over what you’ve written.

Any committed relationship needs to have good communication and honesty. There are multiple aspects to being involved with someone – intellectual interests, common values, and enjoying similar entertainment. Money issues are part of any relationship and shouldn’t go unaddressed. If you can’t be true to your own financial situation and open with the person you’re dating, perhaps it’s not the right relationship for you, or at least not the right time.

-Linda Leitz

6/28/18 - Money Smart Kids - #2

6/21/18 - A Realistic Investment Philosophy 

Pick one of these statements that describe your investment outlook. (1) I want an investment that is really safe. I don’t want to lose any money! (2) I want my money to work hard. I want to see some great returns! If you really only picked one, you’re already more realistic than many people. Many smart individuals believe they should be able to have completely safe investments with no potential loss (or even temporary downturns) and get consistently fabulous returns. So let’s look at the different types of risk.

Loss of investment is a risk, especially in markets where you take an ownership position, like the stock market or stock mutual funds. Sometimes, though, a temporary decline in an investment is mistakenly seen as a loss. Historically, the stock market has performed better than investors in the stock market have. It’s because people tend to panic and pull money out instead of riding some of the downturns back up. When it comes to this type of risk, there is definitely a relationship with return. High risk investments – if they succeed – should anticipate high returns. Low risk will have lower returns.

Another risk is purchasing power. If you have a really safe investment, it may have a “guaranteed” rate of return, but it won’t be as high as a return on an ownership investment. In some cases, it won’t even stay ahead of inflation. That’s especially true when you take taxes into account. Your money will be completely stable, but not be able to meet your needs. Inflation has eroded your purchasing power.

The need for liquidity can also pose risks. If you don’t have money when you need it for emergencies, you might end up paying high interest on a credit card or simply not being able to deal with the financial impact of the emergency. So, if you have your money in the stock market and the stock market is down, you can get to your money, but you’re selling at low values. If you lock your money up for a long period of time to get a better rate on a guaranteed investment, you’ll probably have penalties if you need it.

Taxes can pose more than one type of risk. If you’ve saved for retirement with tax deferred accounts, you might have to pay taxes and penalties if you need it before you turn 59½. Also, the tax code is constantly changing in an effort to meet the needs of providing government services and drive the economy. You might have a good budget today, but if taxes change, you might have less cash flow than you have had in the past.

The solution for finding the perfect investment is to stop thinking there is one. The reason financial planners beat the drum of diversifying investments so much is to avoid one of these risks taking away your financial security. There is no single, perfect solution. But the right combination can serve you well.

-Linda Leitz

6/15/18 - Dad's Advice

Many of us are a product of our upbringing. Even as a financial planner, some of the best common sense financial ideas I ever received were from my parents. My dad had some life experiences that impacted how he approached things and the way he lived demonstrated many ideas through example. Here are a few of my favorite gems of my dad’s wisdom.

Choices – I grew up in a small town and there wasn’t really anything that I wanted that my parents wouldn’t have been able to afford. But periodically when I asked for something, dad would tell me I couldn’t have it. When I asked why, he’d say it was because we can’t have everything we want. These experiences taught me that sometimes I don’t get everything I want, but I can still be happy and have a good life. This may not seem like a huge financial insight, but people who don’t understand this often have a sense of entitlement. They also sometimes end up with too much in credit cards, houses they can’t afford, and trips that are great, but not affordable.

Record keeping – Dad never had a computer. He kept wonderful records that anyone could figure out. The family tax preparer told me once that dad took in his tax information every year in a shoe box, but it was organized in the box. Some of his records were typed, but many were written by hand. Several years after he retired he showed my mom how he kept the records and she started sharing some of the record keeping. So a good system of organization doesn’t have to be fancy, it just has to be organized and logical. And anyone who needs to know the system needs to have access to it. 

Discretion – Dad often told me not to discuss our finances with people outside our family. He wasn’t talking about professionals. He was always completely candid with his financial advisors. When you talk to people about your money that don’t need to know your financial situation, it can sound like bragging or whining – depending on your situation. Also there can be unintended consequences. You may not be sure, going forward, if those people like you for your money or like you for you.

Charity – Dad gave generously and privately to the causes that supported his values. He didn’t assume others would step up. He walked the talk with his actions and his money.

Life Happens – Dad’s family lost their farm in the depression, they then moved to where they could get work. He’d work a couple of hours before going to high school each day. His hard work resulted in a successful business, early retirement, and financial support for his widow – my mom. Don’t feel entitled or downtrodden when circumstances turn against you. Hard work and humility will make up for a lot of bad situations.

-Linda Leitz

6/14/18 - Money Smart Kids - #1

6/12/18 - Giving Kids Allowance

Giving your kids an allowance is a great way to begin teaching them about money. It’s also a good way to cut some spur of the moment spending out of your budget.

Kids can start learning about money surprisingly young – sometimes even preschool age. But for most kids, it makes sense around the first or second grade. Before you give your children an allowance, talk to them about what they can use it for and what they are not allowed to use it for. Maybe for your family that means your children can buy candy (as long as it’s not right before a meal) or toys, but not a pocket knife. Tell your children that they get to choose what they spend it on within the boundaries you’ve set and that they can ask you if something is in the approved category. If your children spend it on something they are not allowed to, you’ll take what was purchased and they don’t get the money back. And – this is important – after the allowance starts, you won’t be buying those things for your children when they ask. This is where the savings come. Instead of arguments at the checkout counter about whether your children can have some candy or the new toy they saw advertised, the discussion turns to them using their own money for it.

How much to give depends on your situation. A good rule of thumb is about one dollar per week for every year of your child’s age. So if your daughter is six, she gets six dollars a week. That might seem like a lot, but remember that you’re not buying some of the things you usually buy for her. If in doubt, it’s better to go too low and increase as she gets better at making decisions.

Having your child’s use of the money as a teaching opportunity is key. You can ask questions, but without criticizing decisions. For instance, it’s better to ask if your son is sure he wants to spend his money on that water gun and perhaps point out that it doesn’t look like it’s very sturdy, than to tell him it’s a stupid thing to buy. And if it breaks, don’t say I told you so. Gently ask how he feels about it or tell him you feel badly that it broke. That’s a better lesson than his parent gloating over his defeat.

It’s important to resist the temptation to bail your child out of their mistakes. Many of us parents would rather endure a negative outcome than see our child go through it. But that’s how the child learns. So discuss financial victories and defeats, but don’t be the safety net. That’s a poor practice to start and it can get really expensive as your child grows older.

-Linda Leitz